Michael...

I had this conversation with my sister's boyfriend earlier today. I think he is a really special person and he has a lot of good advice...

Sarah: look at this....this is an email from jarrod... and he said...I finally reached the
point last week where I don't want anything to do with you anymore Sarah. I'm done. I'm ready to move on, and anything sounds better than being with you again.
Michael:
Wow... He certainly does have a way with words and an even more stunning way of burning bridges.
Sarah: yah, I'm glad he finally is over me (I still kinda doubt that he is) but he didn' have to be so mean
Michael: I am sure that he was just typing what he was hoping to be feeling. Using it as a way to get his feelings out without actually having to accept the feelings of hurt and loss that he is still going through.
The reason a lot of people drink is to try to forget about their problems and their pains. I'm sure that if and when he is sober he is still really hurting.
Sarah: yah, I hope things work out for him, but I hate him for making this my fault again
Michael: Sarah, as a second-hand observer, I don't see how any thing you have done has been malicious or cruel. You got out of a relationship that wasn't healthy for you or for him. In time he will realize that he was using you and that it was wrong. He may be sorry for it, or he might still think that you suck for making him grow up a little bit. Either way, you did what you needed to do and it will be better for both of you down the line.
Sarah: you are so awesome mikey. I agree with what you've said and I don't think that this is my fault at all, but his head is a little warped right now so it'll all work out
Michael: He doesn't have a real solid grip on reality... part of that is because he doesn't want to see that what he is doing is wrong, and part of it is because he is always so drunk that he doesn't have to deal with things. His perception of reality is always tainted by alcohol and his self-serving attitude.
If you need a little encouragement that doesn't come from a biased source, take a look at what you have to show for your time in Laramie and compare it to his. In a short time you'll have a degree and be doing something you really enjoy. Jarrod is living across the alley for Chris and drinking and playing computer games all day and night. It's going to take him some time to figure out what he wants to do with himself. When he does, hopefully he won't have already closed too many doors to get there.
Sarah: Mikey, I love you. You make me feel so much better about myself. thanks for your wisdom. I have to go to class now, but I will talk to you soon.
Michael: I love you too Sarah. Have fun in class and I will talk to you later. bye